Another Argument for Knowing the Point
Because it really matters.
As a writer, you are on an emotional journey as you write, as well, a journey that informs and influences not only the story you are creating, but also your voice and very identity as a writer.
- Donald Maass, The Emotional Craft of Fiction
I’ve never worked on a project that is as circular as the memoir I’m working on now. What I mean is, I am spending a lot of time immersed in trying to come to terms with some things in my past, and in doing so I realize new things about myself, which influences the writing that comes out.
(Let me just say that I’m thankful for good therapy.)
Although I’ve always written from my personal experiences - even my fiction draws largely from real events and relationships - I’ve never really paid attention to this circular nature of creating stories. And while the emotional and identity work is important, I have to continually remind myself to stay focused on the point.
Here’s an example: this week I’m dissecting a brief but intense romantic relationship from my mid-20s to see why it feels important to the larger story of my estrangement from my father and the identity I formed around it.
(No, it is not enjoyable. In case you were wondering. I have a lot of residual, um…feelings.)
So far I’ve handwritten several pages of something that rides the line between a first draft and a teenager’s diary entry. And I find myself following rabbit trails of memory into burrows that are only mildly related - the bass guitar he tried to teach himself to play, the beagle puppy he and his roommates inadvisably adopted and returned a week later.
Stay focused on the point. Today I wrote those words in giant letters at the top of my notepad, and again in the middle of the sixth page. It’s not that writing the random memories is hurting anything. But what will help as I generate the puzzle pieces of this memoir is if I remember what I am trying to say.
(I do know what I’m trying to say with this project, but I’m not sharing it just yet. It’s too early.)
In Case You’re Skimming…
Knowing the point, or what you’re trying to say, is going to help you create a cohesive story.
Happy writing!
Warmly,
Stephanie
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